first time i had sex, i was 17. she was 18. 3 months into our relationship because i was nervous about having sex for the first time and her first time (with a previous boyfriend) had traumatized her a bit. i was only the second person to have sex with her and guy who took her virginity had been a virgin previously too. if oral is counting, she tried going down on me while we were drunk at a party when we first got together and failed miserably because of the alcohols in her. i had turned 17 the month before we got together.