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It’s a enjoy FANTASY not real enjoy… I’m sure she’ll appreciate not being left in a ditch somewhere or duct-taped in a trunk… however you can still use duct-tape. Log in to see images!

By definition, enjoy is unwanted, which makes me want to punch anyone who claims a enjoy fetish, which would include myself so really it’s just the sex where they aren’t in control. However like any good dom/sub knows, the sub is in control since the dom is playing to their fantasies and stops when the safety word is uttered. In the meantime, subs also know that by acting out they are “punished” and as such will struggle or fight back on purpose with the expectation of being slapped around or having a dildo shoved up their bum etc…

The most important thing here is the safety word. My girlfriend and I use “stop” in any language OTHER than English as an example and no matter what else she says I can feel free to completely ignore her or punish her for it. But without the safety word, the fantasy can go too far and go into actual enjoy and you would have no way of knowing and could still be criminally prosecuted. “Sorry officers, I thought when she said ‘no, stop’ I was supposed to stuff my male reproductive organ down her throat after slapping her.” Isn’t really going to hold up that well, even if you had consent before. The law says that you can change your mind AT ANY TIME during sex.

Of course if you cover her mouth it becomes harder to hear, but you can tell the difference between a muffled scream and a muffled attempt at speech at which point your hand could “slip” allowing a word out as a test or you could remove the hand for a second only to tell them that you like them feisty and/or nobody is there to help them. Of course it would be best for the first few times to not bind the mouth at all just until you are confident that you can read her better and can judge her reactions better to see what she likes.

Confidence is the most important thing though. DON’T hesitate in any of your actions and DO punish when they act out, they know fighting back will lead to some rough handling and as such will act out if they WANT to be treated roughly. With the safety word in effect you are nearly free in your actions to learn how far they like to go bit by bit.

As far as masks are concerned. Even supposed “enjoy fetishists” don’t all want sex with strangers, even if they say that they do it may be just a vague concept in their head which seems nice at the time. Make sure she knows it’s you by face or by voice first, and make sure that you are in a relationship, even if just a casual sex one. Otherwise things could turn out very badly for you instead of fun for all.

Granted I’m a sub so it’s less fun for me to dom, but hey. I’m not you.