Anansi Posted:

I promise you, that while compbumion and caring may make you uncomfortable at first, eventually you will not know how you ever lived without them. A human being, even a very special one who was sexually abused during childhood, is like a flower that needs the light of love in order to grow. That flower is you.

It may be difficult now, but it will grow easier with time.

I truly commend You honest effort, but it seems years of anal abuse has put them in constant fear and in need of attention.