Seriously though, after a relationship ends, what are you like? Are you quick to bounce back or does it really weigh heavily on you?

I’m pretty much a mess after relationships, thinking about what I could’ve done better, how things could have been different. Any tips out there for those of us who “really aren’t strong enough?”

Yeah, but can you find love in a battlefield?

Seriously speaking, just distract yourself as much as possible. Get out of the house to stop moping, get your friends to drag you out for a nice day at the amusement park or something. Anything to stop you from dwelling and stewing inside your head.

Yes. Otherwise Ben & Jerry’s would be out of business.

i’m pretty much a mess when it happens. i mean hell, i tried drinking myself to oblivion (while keeping in mind obligations like work) the first month after this last one happened. and my moods are still unpredictable. it’s been about 2 months.

i decided a while ago that i can’t dwell on it forever. i still love her, but she’s not going to get back with me, at least not for a long time if at all. so i figure it’s best to try and move on. i’m trying to get laid (so far to no avail), just so i can feel less bad about her ****ing other people. and i mean, 2 months without sex when you’ve gotten used to at least once a week is stressful as hell. and getting moreso all the time.

also, to respond to the title with a song quote: “Life goes on, even after the thrill of living is gone”

I honest to whichever deity you choose to believe in, do not believe in any form of love.

That pretty much makes my response an auto-no right?

Mostly people falling victim to commercialism and the fact that for some reason, it is one of the few things ALL societies can come to accept regardless of background. People only “love” each other because other people “love” each other. Love is pretty much a disease. Why do you think they call it lovesick.

As for what Shii said. Log in to see images!

That may also be it.

It is simply human urge to repopulate, as with most organisms.

dobnits Posted:

People only “love” each other because other people “love” each other. Love is pretty much a disease. Why do you think they call it lovesick.

At the risk of sounding like a total sap(and I know I will), I have to disagree with you.

While I don’t believe in “story book love”, I do know that true love exists.

I’ve been married for over 10 years now, and I love my wife so much that it is all at once the greatest happiness and the greatest pain in my life. I think it’s called “lovesick” because of the pain in my gut I feel at the very idea of ever having to live my life without her.

The idea of love as dictated by main stream media may be bull****, but when the person you’re with in a relationship is also your best friend in the world, can it really be anything other than love?

Adapt Posted:

I also found that snapping myself with a rubber band only served to reinforce ideas.

You’re right – pretty soon, whenever you see a rubber band, you’ll be bursting into tears over the agonizing pain bumociated with your lost love. Strike that.

A-haaaaaa. Oh wait. I did. Log in to see images!

dobnits Posted:

Mostly people falling victim to commercialism and the fact that for some reason, it is one of the few things ALL societies can come to accept regardless of background. People only “love” each other because other people “love” each other. Love is pretty much a disease. Why do you think they call it lovesick.

As for what Shii said. Log in to see images!

That may also be it.

It is simply human urge to repopulate, as with most organisms.

eh, i used to feel that way until i felt real love. and this was regardless of sex. it took us quite a while to actually have sex with each other for the first time.

i don’t however subscribe to the “love conquuers all” mentality. sometimes two people can love each other with everything they’ve got and it’s not enough to make things work. :/