Keakealani Posted:

Yeah… and why are these girls so complacent? I think that’s the thing that drives me insane, is that relationship-induced Stockholm syndrome described in the article… not only do these girls go to these guys, but they stay with them and justify it. Just mental, if you ask me. But not to get all feminazi, but I think this problem would be a lot less severe if society didn’t keep telling girls that on the one hand they’re exactly equal to guys (and are therefore expected to be equal in all relationships, even if there are income discrepancies and the like) but at the same time that it’s their job to fix their relationships and “make things work” D: It’s just not really a very good model.

You know how guys sometimes to often let their male reproductive organs think for them? This is the female parallel. I disagree that women are expected to fix relationships more than men. A fair part of the problem is their lack of understanding of the world around them, or at least compared to men. I think the concept of emotional investment, as in that feelings are a scarce resource and placing them according to where you expect the most return, should be taught in school, especially to women.

I’ve been dealing recently with one of my best friends hung up over an ex months after the break-up. The problem is she’s not even trying to get over her (regularly contacts her, writes messages she doesn’t necessarily read), and her depressive bouts spill over into other relationships. She says she still loves her, and then follows with weak reasons. We’ve argued for hours about it. I don’t really get it. I’m not trying to sound sexist btw. Guys have their flaws too.