Erm. I don’t know if this is the advise you’re looking for. But if you’re already thinking about marriage, you should just be comfortable with the way you are. Not many ladies will fall hopelessly for you, but you gain honesty points. And the best part really is that when you find one that does like you and of course you’re also into, she won’t get that shocking “oh thats what he’s REALLY like” thing. All women are different and if what you’re going for is the long run, make yourself an easy target and let them know who they’re gonna get.